This post is the most private and intimate one I’ve ever written. This post is meant to "talk" about a topic most people just avoid; this topic is meant to help or at least to make that people going through this don’t feel so lonely.
Another note is that this post is in English, because it has always been a way for me to talk about important issues, to talk about things I woudn't say to everyone.
Now... the issue: most couples I know have had or had at some moment rough patches along the migration process... the thing is most of them don’t say a thing because is a very private issue (as I said before). Well, I’m saying it: YES, THE MIGRATION PROCESS CAN CREATE A ROUGH PATCH OR WORSE IN ANY COUPLE.
The migration process, even if you are the strongest person in the world, even if you two are the strongest couple in the universe, can get to you. It brings out both the best and the worst in each one of you, and if it’s not handled at once, it can become the beginning of the end of your relationship.
Some of the issues that are related to this process are:
- There is always one person more involved than the other.
- There is always one person who lives, eats, dreams, thinks, etc., etc., more in Oz than in the current reality, while the other is quite the opposite.
- There is always one person that is more careful with the money and saves EVERYTHING while the other is not so “conservative”.
- There is always one person who wants to go away from your original country than the other.
- There is always one person who can handle more stress than the other.
And all that is just in the process of the visa application, not after actually migrating to Oz... I think that list covers some of the repetitive issues among couples. Besides those, there are the day-to-day problems, which are enhanced by the list aforementioned. So it can also create (if you don’t already have...) communication, trust, confidence, so-on-and-on issues.
The solution to all that: TALK ABOUT THAT BEFORE IT HAPPENS... BECAUSE IT WILL HAPPEN.
But not talk about it superficially; really deepen in each topic, even if you don’t like what you hear from your partner... and if you are not a very communicative person, well, BECOME ONE. Plan strategies to aboard every single one of the issues that may come up; and if you see something odd happening, don’t let it pass.
Be patient, be assertive, be loving, and be caring... be tolerant, be a listener, be the best friend of your partner above all (even more than being a wife or husband)... be understanding.
If not, prepare yourself for having at least a rough patch... if not, for breaking up with the love of your live... it may happen.
So... in any way, be prepared... it might be the difference between going together in one way, or going two ways separately.